Camilla, forælder
“Kort at skulle beskrive hvad Stine har haft af indvirkning på vores dreng, og vores liv er vanskeligt, for Vores oplevelse er uden tvivl at Stines måde at samtale og involvere sig i vores drengs udfordringer på, har ændret vores dreng, og vores families liv, samt givet vores dreng mentale redskaber til at stå stærkere i livet end nogensinde.
Chris Delaney, Parent
“ Stine is awesome! Our 9-year-old son was having difficulty dealing socially in school. It was surprising to us because he is relatively popular, has some good friends, good athlete, does well in school, etc.; all the things you would think lead to a kid being happy. However, despite all his gifts, he was truly miserable. He became very depressed and struggled greatly with the routine events of a child’s day. We tried everything we could to help him ourselves. We also enlisted his school counselor. But, it was when he began coaching sessions with Stine that we really started to see our son come out from under the dark cloud he created. Stine has a way of getting through the walls he put up and giving him the tools he needs to deal with situations which previously caused such misery. He has grown to think of her as a confidante and friend. With the help of Stine, he has returned to his previous, happy demeanor. Our entire home has benefited and is much more relaxed thanks to her work. She has been the perfect fit for us and we can’t thank her enough.“
Bertram, 13
“Jeg havde det slet ikke godt og tomhedsfølelsen var der rigtig meget. Det var dejligt at kunne få hjælp uden at være der fysisk, og virkelig rar at kunne gøre det online. Jeg har det meget bedre end da jeg startede :)) og vil anbefale dig til andre.”
Kimberly White-Burnette, Parent
“Hi Stine,
I wanted to take a moment and express my gratitude for the time you have spent with Lauren thus far. Every week I feel the shift within her and in her energy; it’s really beautiful to witness.
Something really cool happened tonight at dinner and I wanted to share with you. I’m sure you already know that Lauren has a 14 year old sister, her name is Abby. After a very full weekend we sat down together for Sunday dinner. Abby was tired, a bit crabby and had little room for patience with others.
Durning our dinner conversation, Abby blurted out, “I hate ignorance and the stupid things that so many kids do.” Immediately Lauren aligned with Abby and responded, “I know what you mean Abby. I use to feel the same way but let me tell you something that Stine taught me that has helped a lot.” Lauren continued, “Stine said that I get noticed when I preform in a play or sing on a stage and you Abby, you get noticed because you are an amazing Soccer Goalie – but some kids Abby, light up a cigarette in the hallway at school to be noticed, some girls have sex to be noticed and some kids try to commit suicide be seen.” “We all want to be seen Abby, to be noticed and good or bad, people are going to do something to be noticed. Those stupid actions use to upset me too Abby but now I just feel sad for them.”
WOW! Did I feel a rush of pure joy run through my veins. My heart filled up with gratitude and there was a great peace & comfort in witnessing Lauren’s transformation out of her anxiety and into this confident, compassionate, peaceful wisdom.
An throughout the conversation, her face was relaxed, with a warm, calming smile. Again, it was really beautiful. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!”
Caryl Borger Mix, Parent
“I wanted to send some great big love and gratitude out to Stine Falkenberg Schmidt for taking the time to talk with me about my daughters and my sons anxiety.
Especially discussing the importance of self confidence and self esteem and how to build that with them, and most importantly, my need to practice becoming a consulting parent and their Mumma first, for my children, instead of a coach to them was key…..such a major shift for me and a weight lifted off of me. I feel like I can start moving in a direction that is best for THEM but still have my mumma bear needs met too.
I am so grateful!”
Heidi Bengaard, Parent
“After just a few sessions with Stine, Laura became a happy and more positive teenager- feeling stronger than ever and ready to embrace life with joy. I can not thank you enough for making this transformation possible. I am so grateful.
Laura`s comment this morning: ” Why am I feeling so happy …. I just woke up !!!!!”
Charlotte Heckmann, Parent
“Det du kan er imponerende. Jeg er mor til 2 børn på henholdsvis 8 og 10 år som begge over forskellige perioder har benyttet dig og stadig løbende gør og vil sikkert gøre det ud i fremtiden.
Du er for dem en person som kan skille deres “hverdagsproblemer” og deres “hverdagsudfordringer” ad, som opstår i skolen og i deres udvikling. Du formår at komme ind bag ved og åbne op og give dem værktøjer de kan bruge. Det er så vildt at se hvad det flytter. Det du kan har haft afgørende betydning for mine børn og jeg er dig dybt taknemmelig.
Min datter har du formået via af jeres snakke, at vende fra at være en pige, der havde store sociale problemer i sin klasse, få venner og dårlig trivsel. Til en pige der har fået begge ben på jorden og tør sig fra og har nu fået en stor vifte af venner på sin nye skole. Den tro hun har fået på sig selv, er din fortjeneste. Hendes tro på sig selv, det er så vildt. Hun sagde til mig en dag. Mor det er meget bedre at snakke med Stine for hun forklare tingene så jeg kan forstå dem. Selvom jeg ved jeg siger næsten det samme er det bare noget andet når du gør det. Du skiller tingene ad, så de får et klart billede af hvem deres “modstandere” er.
Hun var ved at dø af skræk den første gang hun skulle “udfører” en af de opgaver du havde stillet hende. Vi snakkede meget om hvordan hun kunne gøre. Og igen hvor var det vildt, da hun havde taget det første skridt og løst den første opgave. Hun strålede og siden har det ene taget det andet.
Min søn er en helt anden støbning. Han hader at snakke om det der der gør ondt inden bag i. Og han syntes ikke jeg var verdens sjoveste mor, da han skulle snakke med dig første gang. Han var meget ked af at gå i skole, syntes ikke han havde nogen venner, alle drillede eller var sure på ham. Han trives bare ikke og hans selvværd var helt i bund. Jeg skulle være med på side linjen første gang og jeg var meget spændt på om du kunne lukke ham op og få lov at komme ind bag ved. Det er normalt ikke nemt. Der gik 10 min så havde du arbejdet dig ind bag ved skallen og han snakkede. Jeg sad så jeg kunne høre Jeres samtale, da jeg havde lovet ham at være i nærheden. Der gik ikke længe før min tårrer bare trillede. Igen det var så vildt det du gør.
Efter den første samtale var det som en stor sten var forsvundet fra hans skuldre, selv en hans bedste ven kunne se en forandring uden han viste hvad der var sket. Han snakkede og snakkede efter jeres første snak og kunne skille tingene ad.
Den gave de har fået gennem dig, har jeg ikke ord og følelser at forklare med. Andet end betænk ikke din kunnen…Og jeg vil ønske for alle der står med et barn der ikke trives på den ene eller anden måde at prøve dette. Som forældre til børn der ikke trives af den ene eller anden grund, er dette en fantastisk metode og mulighed af 2 grunde. De kan sidde hjemme i deres trygge omgivelser og snakke med dig. Og ens børn bliver ikke sygelig gjort som skulle de til psykolog. Det gør så ondt når ens børn ikke har det godt.
Jeg anbefaler dig varmt til alle jeg kender :O) ”
Laura Nemiroff, Parent
“Just wanted to say thank you for all you’ve done for us in helping Sami find more stability from within herself. I have appreciated your staying consistent even when we are running in several different directions at once. Growth is pain many times but I think its something that all of us here have needed to do. I know there will be many more days of struggle ahead but I there will also be days of great success due to our new-found inner confidence in ourselves to speak our truths and stand by them with conviction. That is empowering! “
Mette Kuhlmann, Forælder
“Kære Stine,
Før Mathilde startede hos dig, følte hun, at hun ikke var god nok. Det kulmineret på en ferie, hvor hun åbnede sit hjerte. Mathilde græd meget længe den aften, men Mathilde satte også ord på, hvorfor det gjorde så ondt.
Mathilde følte at hun ikke var ligeså god som sine veninder. Der var flere årsager til Mathildes fortvivelse, de to største grunde var:
• Mathilde var begyndte, at blive bevidst om, at hendes klasse kammerater overhalede hende fagligt, da Mathilde har samsynsproblemer / ordblindhed.
• Hendes bedste veninde valgte hende fra gang på gang. Det fra valg gjorde simpelthen så ondt langt ind i Mathildes hjerte.
Som forældre var det hårdt, det gjorde simpelthen så ondt, at se ens datter være så ked af det. Hendes samsynsproblemer kunne vi godt hjælpe med, vi kunne godt forstå, at det til tider kan være svært at læse. Her kunne vi konkret gøre noget for at hjælpe Mathilde både med at læse og lave øjenøvelser.
Men det med at Mathilde blev valgt fra, det var jo et valg andre børn tog som vi ikke kunne gøre så meget ved. Vi kunne jo ikke bestemme hvem, de andre børn skulle lege med. Det var hårdt for det gjorde så ondt inden i Mathilde, vi kunne se hendes smerte, men vi stod ligesom på sidelinien.
Vi var ikke i tvivl om, at Mathilde havde brug for hjælp. Men hvilken hjælp det var svært, fordi vi havde brug for at Mathilde blev “grebet” af de rette hænder. Derfor faldt valget på Stine, et valg som vi aldrig har fortrudt.
Mathilde har siddet på sit eget værelse og talt med Stine via Skype, hvilket gjorde det mindre farligt at åbne sit hjerte.
Igennem Stine fandt Mathilde sig selv. Hun fandt den pige hun er, hun fandt en pige, der var langt stærkere end hun troede hun var. Hun fandt sine egne styrker og turde sige, jeg ved godt jeg er anderledes, men jeg kan lide mig selv. Hun fandt simpelthen sit indre jeg. Hendes selvværd startede med at være i bund, men det er det ikke mere.
Forvandlingen med Mathilde er til at se, hun er absolut ikke den samme pige. Det skyldes udelukkende at Mathilde (og hendes forældre) blev “grebet”, af de rette hænder uden dig Stine ville Mathilde ikke have den selvtillid og tro på sig selv, som hun hun har i dag.
Stine, du er en fantastisk coach, et smukt menneske og en dejlig person. Som vi kun kan anbefale til alle, der har brug for at tro på sig selv og finde sin indre styrke frem. Mange knus, Mathilde, Lars og Mette.” – Mette
Morten Knudsen, Parent
“For godt til at være sandt.”
Samantha, 12
“I know this is a little late but Happy Holidays! At the beginning of our sessions, I felt really low. I had terrible organization and productivity habits. Not to mention that I was suffering from social anxiety and depression. Now, I have great techniques to not only help me with organization and procrastination, but with anxiety and dangerous urges. A little while ago, one of my friends said she wanted to cut. She messaged me and I was able to talk her out of it. I’m really glad that I can both keep myself happy, and help others feel happy as well.
Thank You and Merry Christmas!”
Laura, 16
“The first time I had a coaching session was at the end of last year, 2013. All through that year, I felt so terrible with myself. My parents were going through a divorce and I had friendship problems at school. I was confused with all these emotions and I honestly did not know how to handle them. I was sad, then happy, then sad again, falling into the ‘Crazy Eight.’ I was blaming myself mostly for the problems that there were and I kept putting all this unnecessary weight on my shoulders, and on top of that, I had to deal with a recent panic attack.
When I first heard that I could get a coaching session that could help me get back up again, I was all for it. Since my mum was also becoming a coach, I already knew a little about how a session would go. I was thinking, “Alright, I need to do something about this, and it should be now!” But at the same time I was thinking, this may not turn out how I want it to.
Because of the time difference, I had to get up at 6am, but let me tell you something. After the first session, I could feel a HUGE difference with myself. It was almost like this massive weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I felt light, and so full of energy afterwards and for the first time in a long time, I felt happy about the person that I was.
After each session I kept reflecting on what Stine had said and I really took it in. After about three or four sessions, one of my friends even came up to me and told me that she had never seen me so happy before and she was extremely happy to see me always walk around with a smile on my face.
It has now been around four of five months since I had my first coaching session with Stine, and I am so happy to say that I am now a much happier and brighter person to be around than I was half a year ago. I know myself a lot better and I know where I am heading with my life now. It can only get better from here.
Thank you so much Stine for all the help and support that you have given! I am so thankful and grateful to have met such an amazing person like you! I cannot thank you enough!”
Amanda, 14
“Det har været dejligt at arbejde med dig, du er en fantastisk person, meget dygtig og virkelig god at tale med. Allerede første gang vi snakkede følte jeg mig forstået og jeg stolede på dig fra start Jeg følte det var sikkert for mig at åbne op og være ærlig. Du var den helt rigtige hjælp for mig. Jeg var også virkelig glad for dine gode råd :))”
Daniel & Stina, Forældre
“Da vi første gang kontaktede Stine, var det en næsten umulig situation for os. Vores datter Anna havde lige skiftet skole, da vi var flyttet, og de gamle mønstre fra den gamle skole dukkede op igen. Hver gang Anna var involveret i en konflikt, blev hun så ked af det, vred og ked af det, og resten af hendes dag var ødelagt. Det skete oftere og oftere, og vi var fortvivlede. Vi blev henvist til Stine af en af Annas lærere, og vi har ikke et sekund fortrudt det.
Fra første session havde Stine en god forbindelse til Anna, og hun formåede at tale med vores datter og hjælpe hende på måder, som vi som forældre aldrig havde haft mulighed for at komme i nærheden af. Sessionerne med Stine har tydeligvis givet Anna mere selvtillid og selvværd, hun tror nu på, at hun kan håndtere de opgaver og udfordringer, hun står over for. Anna har altid udtrykt stor glæde ved at tale med Stine, og de samtaler, vi som forældre har haft med Stine, har altid været åbne og givende. Man føler sig tryg i Stines hænder…”
Abby, 14
“Words of hope for people trying to live out their dream or do what they want to do, what they want to accomplish. My number one thing I think I can say is that for one, it gets better. When you’re going through middle school, high school, heck maybe even college, whether it be two years or four or eight, those are chapters of your life, and those aren’t your book. I was once told that every day is a page, every era is a chapter. You live that’s the first page, and you die that’s the end. there’s no point living your life through your book, if when you get to the end of your book, you look back to the end and think wow what just happened? What did I do? What was that chapter? What was this chapter? What was that page? What was this? I was told to live a life that’s significant. To be happy. To really I guess enjoy your 100 years, your 50 years, your could be 16 or 17 years that you have of your life.
Each page is like a whole new story. You take time to turn the page. That’s your life. You have one day to turn each page. You look back and enjoy it, and think about each chapter. This isn’t a four disc series. It’s not the twilight series. There’s not going to be another book. There’s your book and whatever you’re going through right now is your chapter and it’s not going to just end that way. Just don’t think high schools so rough that I can’t get through this. “This guy bullies me. This girl picks on me, and this teacher is a piece of you know what, you know I hate going to gym because I just don’t fit in. I would rather do something else. You know I hate my parents, I hate my home life, I cut myself or I’ve tried to kill myself or I ran away from home.” You know, anything of that sort of chapter.
You feel like when you’re there, the chapters are going to keep going. Well, they don’t, and I wish someone would have told me what I’m saying now, because I feel like every chapter I was living was a book, and that was my entire book. But it’s not. I feel like I’m on my fourth chapter, fifth maybe. Hopefully I’m not on my 10th or 11th yet. I think to give you hope is to know that it’s either going to get better, or it’s going to get different, and I can guarantee you that you just have to stay strong. You have to remember who you are, even if you don’t know exactly who you are. I’m still not sure exactly who I am quite yet, but you can know who you want to be, or you can know what you want to find. You can know what you want to do. And if you don’t know what you want, you can dream. Dream big. If you want to do six different things, then do them all because you never know what could happen, or what life has to offer. I just know it gets better. So enjoy your chapter. Enjoy your page. And don’t finish your book without getting the most out of it.”
Julie, 14
“Jeg havde det forfærdeligt. Jeg havde angst og var bange for at miste mennesker, som jeg er tæt på, og jeg var bange for at dø selv. Mareridt vækkede mig meget ofte, og jeg havde svært ved at sove. Mine forældres skilsmisse gjorde mig virkelig trist, og jeg bekymrede mig meget om os alle fire. Jeg havde dagligt problemer med vejrtrækning, og det blev værre, når jeg blev virkelig trist og ked af det. Oveni havde pigerne i skolen nogle konflikter, og det var rigtig ubehageligt.
Nu har jeg det meget bedre. Tænker sjældent mine dumme tanker, og det føles godt. Mit liv er meget bedre, og jeg sover tungt uden mareridt, når jeg laver mine øvelser. Min mor og jeg har begge bemærket, at min vejrtrækning er blevet væsentlig bedre. Konflikten mellem pigerne er løst, og jeg har fundet ud af, at jeg bare skal være mig selv og stole på, at det er det bedste. Faktisk kommer nogle mennesker nu til mig for at få hjælp, da de stoler på mig. Jeg bliver ved med at få nye gode venner. Du har været en stor hjælp. Jeg har det så meget bedre end da vi startede. Du er rar og beroligende at tale med, og du er god til at sætte dig selv i mine sko. Jeg vil bestemt anbefale dig til andre! Det bedste er, at du har hjulpet mig så meget. Jeg er så taknemmelig!
Danielle Louvres, 30
“When I first met Stine I was in a complete “mess mode” as I say. I had moved away from my country, giving up my friends, family and job, and my not even 1 year marriage was already falling apart; I was completely lost about who I was, and what I represented in this whole context. Stine made me see my life and my marriage in a different perspective, and helped me find strength and understanding to fight for a new beginning. She showed me a better version of me, and I could not have come to where I am today without her help. All I can say is that you were an angel that showed up when I was on my breaking point, and I have nothing but a lot of THANK YOU to you! You rock!!
I hope this testimonial really shows how I feel about our sessions, and I hope it can help people to see how great you are. I am really grateful for the opportunity of being coached by you. You deserve all the success in the world!
Julia, Age 13
“Stine, I just want to say that you have helped me big time over the last two months and I’m so grateful. You truly are an amazing human being.”
Sickan Bardrum, Forælder
“Det var en fornøjelse at høre dit foredrag for os forældre. Det var virkelig inspirerende og meget genkendeligt fra vores hverdag. Min datter på 14 var også meget begejstret for foredraget for eleverne…”
Amanda, 8. klasse
“Jeg kunne rigtig godt lide foredraget for os elever. Jeg tror det fik alle til at tænke over at vi alle er mennesker og vi alle er sårbare. Jeg tror de fleste vil tænke tilbage på det og huske det i lang tid. Tak!”
Daniel, 9.klasse
“Thumbs up! Første foredrag om mobning jeg faktisk holdt mig vågen til. Du havde mange gode eksempler med! ”
Julie, 8.klasse
“Fedt foredrag, det føltes næsten som om du fortalte min historie“
Camilla, forælder
“Kort at skulle beskrive hvad Stine har haft af indvirkning på vores dreng, og vores liv er vanskeligt, for Vores oplevelse er uden tvivl at Stines måde at samtale og involvere sig i vores drengs udfordringer på, har ændret vores dreng, og vores families liv, samt givet vores dreng mentale redskaber til at stå stærkere i livet end nogensinde”.